Choosing A Mate

Choosing A Mate - Matches By Design®

In the wilds, the process of choosing a mate is determined entirely by their physical properties; strength, courage and ability to hunt and provide for their family. These principles still apply in many cases throughout the human world; however, since our minds are much more developed than those of our animal brethren there are other factors that should be considered.

The practice of choosing a mate based on their ability to provide for a family is an important one, and while that ability in the human world is not judged by hunting wild game, it is judged on their ability to meet their responsibilities. The amount of responsibility that you are looking for in a mate should be determined by your expectations for the future. If your goal is to retire at a young age you will want a mate who is willing to help you work and sacrifice for this goal.

And if you want to start a family you are going to want to choose a mate who is willing to carry their part of domestic responsibilities and possibly place future career advancements on hold. If you are a free-spirit, you will want to find a mate who shares the same viewpoints you do. Whatever the case, you will need a mate who’s willing to uphold their portion of the load for a successful future together.

Another point to be considered is common interest. Sometimes opposites do attract, but as a general rule relationships have a better chance of survival if the involved parties have many key values and interests in common. This does not mean that the two of you need to be identical images of one another; if you did not have differing opinions what would the two of you talk about? On the other hand, if you do not enjoy some of the same activities, what will the two of you do on Friday night? More important than these trivialities is the need for a shared vision for the future. While attraction is fine and good at the beginning, the relationship is doomed to failure if, you’re unable to chart a common path.

Choosing a mate is not an endeavor that should be taken lightly; choosing incorrectly could result in a life of misery for all involved parties. Take the time to carefully consider what it is that you want in a mate before embarking on the journey. If you could use some help, let’s get started, now!

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