Motivation and Momentum
Professional Matchmaker
One of the most difficult parts of goal achievement is simply getting started. It is easy enough to dream and plan, but many people get stuck in this phase and avoid taking action. Planning and dreaming might make you feel like you’re doing something about your goals. But if you never actually take a step forward you will likely never achieve them. In order to see measurable progress, you have to step out of your comfort zone and take action.
When you finally do gather your courage and begin moving forward, what usually happens?
You realize its harder than you thought it would be, right?
It feels like trying to run uphill. You keep tripping over obstacles, facing setbacks and delays, dealing with fear and anxiety, and fighting a daily battle to stay motivated. It is during this difficult phase that most people give up. They decide that it’s not meant to be right now, so they set their dream aside. Or worse, they resign themselves to a mediocre life because they don’t believe they have what it takes to succeed. They’ve failed, so they are not going to try again.
Have you done this? Most people have!
This does not have to be the end of the story. You can pick up your dreams, dust them off and try again. But this time you should know about something called momentum. The difficult phase we just described is what happens at the beginning when you are trying to gain momentum.
Most people quit during this phase because they think it is always going to be this hard.
What they don’t realize is that every effort they put toward the achievement of their goals will build on previous efforts. With every step forward the process gets easier. Finally, they put so much energy and effort into the process that momentum begins to take over. Suddenly they do not have to push so hard to keep moving forward. It becomes fun, even easy to achieve their goal.
This same experience can be yours! All you have to do is keep moving forward.
Keep working toward your dreams and never quit. Momentum will take over eventually! If you want to get momentum working even more quickly for you there are a few ways to do it, but they can be summed up in one sentence:
Be willing to work harder, faster and take bigger risks than you have in the past.
The reason momentum can be delayed sometimes is because many people take tentative steps toward their goals. They’re afraid to give their all, so they hold back much of the energy and power they could be devoting toward their goal. Unaware, they may feel more comfortable working at a slower pace, so they avoid taking big risks and instead take baby steps.
There’s not a thing wrong with this approach if it suits you! However, if you want to make faster progress and build momentum quickly, think about taking bigger steps and giving your full energy and focus toward making it happen. By doing so, you will push through the difficult and find yourself coasting before you know it.
Loving yourself can be difficult when you have limiting and derogatory messages playing in your subconscious mind. Most of these messages are recorded during childhood, but their effects can be far reaching!
Did you know that you are still being influenced by the things your parents and others said to you decades ago?
When someone told you that you were no good, you believed them. When someone told you that you would never amount to anything, you believed them. When someone told you that you were stupid or learning disabled or weird, you believed them. And you still believe them to this day; even if you are not consciously aware of these underlying beliefs.
Is it possible to overcome old messages and replace them with new, empowering messages? Yes! Here are three good ways to start:
- Romance yourself. Think about the last love affair you had. At the beginning you and your partner probably devoted a lot of time, attention and affection to each other, right? You felt passionate and swept away by the beauty of your partner and he/she probably felt the same about you. One of the best ways to learn to love yourself is to enter into a similar process with yourself! Treat yourself like royalty! Do things that make you feel happy. Hug yourself. Sweet-talk yourself. Buy yourself nice things. Spend quality time with yourself simply because you deserve it.
- Explore your existing beliefs. You may suspect you have old, limiting messages rattling around in your head but still be unsure about what they are exactly. In order to discover the beliefs that are holding you back, you may need to go on an expedition.
Begin by saying things like, I am really proud of myself for doing that. It was not easy, but I pushed through the rough spots and gave it my best shot. You can also make a point of simply giving yourself positive self-talk daily. Recite affirmations like these: I am a valuable person. I have a lot to offer the world. I am talented and successful. The more you do it, the more you will come to believe it! We hope you have found this article helpful. Take Action to Change Your Life, Now.
