Empowerment and Life Change
Upscale Matchmaker
This requires a shift in our thinking. If you have ever been stuck in a rut before, you probably know the sense of futility that takes over your life. You want your life to change, but feel powerless to do anything. You may find yourself constantly making plans to improve your life, but never quite following through. Though taking action can intimidate, it can also empower you! Once you learn to use it effectively, it can propel your life toward more fulfilling opportunities and circumstances. When you do this, you realize there was never, really, anything to fear in the first place!
These three simple steps will help you get started:
- First of all, it is important that you understand that your life is the way it is right now because of your hesitation in taking action! Then, decide on one action to take to get the ball rolling. Think about your life right now, and ask yourself which situations you want to change first. You might choose your relationships, career, health, financial, or anything else that makes you feel powerless and stuck. Then think about one simple action you can take to inspire some positive change. It does not have to be a huge one, just something to begin building momentum.
- Secondly, once you have decided on your action step, you will have to push to take it no matter what! This may seem incredibly difficult or even scary, but remember that most often the things we fear most are not going to happen. In fact, we may not even have a clear reason for feeling scared, everyone is afraid of the unknown. Given, the pep talk, push yourself in any way you have to in order to move forward at least a little bit. After you take that first step, be sure to let go of any expectations of the things that will happen because of it, and allow yourself to feel great because you had the courage to do something about it! Thirdly, once you have taken one step forward, you will need to keep pushing yourself to take others. Consider this, even if you take a hundred small steps in a month, you will be putting forth positive effort to make changes in your life, which cannot help but bring about better opportunities and circumstances into your life.
- In the real world, being aggressive, demanding perfection and even telling little white lies are all ingredients for success. However, those same qualities are killers when you are dating on-line and off line, too. There is a big difference between being aggressive or confident and being too aggressive, over-confident, or just plain sleazy from a woman’s point of view. If you push too hard for a face-to-face, you will come across as too aggressive – maybe even, scary. Try to remember that you are not trying to close a business deal and keep the relationship progressing at a slow but steady pace. Patience is the key.
We are all flawed in some way or another. If you expect the woman or man to be absolutely perfect and demand that, you will always be disappointed. Demanding perfectionism in your work is one thing.
Demanding perfectionism from a friend, co-worker or a lady or man, your expectations are unrealistic, it will not happen. Expect flaws and just deal with them. Decide the ones you can live with and those you cannot. Be honest from the beginning of a relationship. Do not make false statements. The truth will come out eventually. Shift your thinking and make the change now.
